9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. ESV Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
Today I’m going to be starting a new series about marriage! We will spend 3 weeks with myself and two other lovely ladies/friends/bloggers discussing different topics on marriage! Lately God has been pressing on my heart to write a post about marriage. He has been pushing the hubs and I to really work on our marriage. Not because it is bad or anything but because it is something that should be constantly worked on. God did not intend for marriage to be mediocre! He intended marriage to be amazing and for us to work together as a team. During this series the ladies and I are going to be real and share with you things that we have struggled with and overcame issues.
Neil and I are very different people. I’m crazy, free spirited, out going, and quiet when at home (most of the time). Neil on the other hand is quiet (except at home), keeps more to himself, and very disciplined. God designed us to be together because we balance each other out in so many ways. The hard part is that we both live in our own selfishness and want to be are own people. God has been calling me out and revealing that I need to do more things that he likes even though they are not my favorite things (like watching football). Everyday we are learning to grow more together and do things that God has intended for us.
God intended marriage to be centered around him! The best thing we can do for our marriage is pray for each other and read the bible together. This can be easily forgotten and is one of the most important things we can do being married. Remembering to pray for each other while the other is at work or just praying for their day can make a huge difference. Also, praying together can help strengthen your spiritual like together. I can definitely tell a difference when I pray for Neil or when we pray together. God works in us so much more or at least I can see/feel it stronger.
One thing that I have realized after being married is that your sins are much more apparent. Before it was a lot easier to cover them up because I wasn’t around people all the time. This is a blessing and a hardship. My natural instinct is to run from my issues or just ignore them. Neil has helped me and pushed me in the right direction to help me face my fears or work on my sins. Since my sin is not just my sin anymore they are our sin. We constantly pray for our sins and for God to help us overcome them.
The next two weeks we will hear from two amazing women discussing different issues and blessings of marriage at different stages of life! Can’t wait!
Have you found anything that has helped or hurt your marriage?